Kittie Lanham Oakes

Autobiography of Kittie Lanham Oakes
INTRODUCTION BY ELAINE
OAKES :
Kittie Lanham was born July 16, 1894.
I have combined several documents that my
Grandmother Kittie left. The originals were
partly handwritten and partly typed on poor
quality paper and had deteriorated badly.
Some of the material was repetitious and some
was fragmentary. None of it was really
complete. Because they are interesting hints
about other stories, I included the fragments but
put them in brackets. I have added a very
little from my memory of her stories.
Grandmother was a great storyteller, and it is
hard to say what really happened and what was just
a good story she had read somewhere and adopted.
The earlier versions had different names for
several people and she probably didn't remember
most of them by the time she wrote this,
sixty-some years after the events. I believe
most of the ordinary things, and most
of the stories of mischief she and her sister got
into. She claims that Sister was wild but
from what she said about her own behavior she was
pretty wild for those days, too. These days
they would be considered normal to rather tame.
I was born, under a lucky star, I think, in
Grayson County, Texas in a village so small I
cannot find it on my map and it may not even exist
today. Both my grandfathers were Confederate
Veterans and both were early settlers in Texas
because, as they told me, Reconstruction Days were
so difficult in South Carolina and
Mississippi. They felt they would be far
better off in new territory and both bought cheap
land in Grayson County in 1870, within six months
of each other. I was born there so some of
my remembrances are tales they told me as a child.
Grandfather Weems moved his family from
Mississippi to a farm about four miles west of
Sherman and Grandfather Lanham, from Edgefield,
South Carolina to one about the same distance
east. Both lived in log cabins in the
beginning.

LANHAM FAMILY
My paternal grandfather was Col. R.G.
Lanham. He served with General Lee in
Virginia, and while there he met and married
Caroline Elizabeth Harrison. I never met her
as she died before my father and mother were married.
The old Daguerreotype picture and some bits and
pieces of jewelry are all I remember of her, but
she left two sons, my father Tom and Wiley, his
younger brother. Papa said that I looked very
much like her, and he also told me
that she was related to the two Harrison
Presidents and kin to Pocahontas but since then I
do not remember, if I ever knew, the names of
either of her parents.
Grandfather must have loved her very much for
he did not remarry for a long time - until I was
about 8 or 9 years old. And much later, I
found a small notebook among his things with
sweet, sentimental poems he had written
to her. I have a lovely heavy taffeta dress,
handmade with tiny stitches, that she wore when
she went to meet her new husband's family in
Edgefield South Carolina Grandfather
Lanham's full name was Robert Glover Lanham.
My father's name was Thomas Walter and his
brother was Wiley Harrison. Uncle Wiley
never married. Although one of Grandpa's
sisters traced the family records and had them
printed in a small booklet; my actual first hand
knowledge of the Lanham genealogy is skimpy.
My aunt traced the family history back to about
1800 when Solomon Lanham settled in Maryland not
far from Washington, DC. My
great-grandfather moved to Edgefield, South
Carolina and my father was born
there. My father, Thomas Walter Lanham, was born
in Edgefield, South Carolina and went to Texas as
a small boy in 1870 or 1871. He grew up near
Sherman and became a schoolteacher. He
attended college in Sherman but did not
graduate, though he taught school most of his life
and was truly a bookish type. He was a very
good small town school superintendent.
My father had one younger brother, Wiley
Harrison. He had a strange and tragic
accident, never explained. At the age of
about 21, he was a law student in college at
Sherman and was considered to have a brilliant
future. But one night he rode home,
returning from town. When his horse came
home without him, Grandfather became alarmed and
went to look for him.
He found his son lying beside the road,
unconscious. Uncle Wiley was an excellent
horseman and it was most unlikely that his horse
had thrown him. The road was not rocky nor
hard packed and the fracture in his skull was high
enough and jagged enough that no plausible idea
was found to account for the injury. He was
unconscious for weeks and doctors
trepanned his skull to remove pressure. He
was desperately ill for weeks and the Sherman
paper even printed his obituary. This he
showed me along with two buttons of bone taken
from his scull.
He did regain his health but never fully
recovered mentally, was subject to occasional
violent fits of temper. My mother was always
able to calm him more easily than anyone.

WEEMS FAMILY
My mother's father, James Madison Weems, was
born in Mississippi, and I still have his old
family Bible giving the names and dates of all his
brothers and sisters. Tradition gives the
first Weems in this country as living in Virginia
near the small town of Wakefield where George
Washington was born. My Uncle Mat had a
friend, also named Weems, who had traced the
family line back to the Wymss Castle in Scotland
but the actual family history has breaks in it,
though appearances and characteristics indicate
kinship back down the history.
Thomas Weems was the first American ancestor
of our branch; he lived in Pennsylvania but
married Eleanor Jacoby in New Jersey on 6 Nov
1728. He moved to Virginia and his
descendants to Abbeville District, South Carolina.
She, or one like her, is still around if
rather the worse for wear. Her dress is
different, though. I'm not sure if this was James
Madison Weems Jr. or Sr.

James Madison
Weems, Sr.
(1846 - 1916)
grandfather of Kittie Lanham
(Photograph contributed by Carolyn A. Rogers)
Digging back into memories to see what one
can recall presents problems. I think, because
many children are brought up hearing anecdotes
telling of their early behavior, it is difficult
for a person to separate what they actually do
remember from what they may have heard related to
them of early happenings in their infancy. I
doubt that many can draw a line of distinction
with accuracy.
The first place that I am sure I definitely
remember is the house where I was born. That
home belonged to my grandparents and since they
moved from that small village before I was four
years old, incidents that happened there
are rather unrelated to any sequence of
events. In my mind's eye, I can see part of
that house 'though I cannot recall the number of
rooms or their arrangement. I know that it
was large enough to have an upstairs, and
that there were two porches and that it was
painted an ugly, dingy yellow. The front
porch had a fancy balustrade around it, ant there
was a sort of fretwork under the eaves, much more
elaborate than modern taste suggests.
The house was set in a large yard, and there
were several trees for shade where I could
play. Grandpa hung a rope swing for me from
one of the low branches. And the yard was
fenced. That is about all I can stretch my
memory to cover.
Why the house is less distinct in my mind
than the gin I do not know. But for some
reason, the fact that Grandpa Weems ran the cotton
gin, and certain incidents that occurred in
connection with the operation of the gin are more
impressed on my memory. I do not know why, but
such is the fact. Ginning season in that part of
Texas was a strenuous time for the manager. The
gin ran all night, wagons piled high with the
white fluff filled the gin yard waiting for their
turn. And I remember watching these, the
horses and mules and the tired farmers. They were
sometimes so exhausted from the long days in the
picking fields that they stretched out on top of
their loads to snatch the sleep they missed.
They often did their barn yard chores by lantern
light in order to be in the fields picking their
cotton at the first faint light of
morning.
I loved to see the wagons with high sideboards
move up in orderly line. To see the huge
pipe pulled into position so it could suck up the
white load into the tearing pulling teeth of the
rollers. Once I remember seeing a man's hat
sucked from his head as he pulled the suction pipe
into position, and another time, a stone about the
size of a man's fist was drawn into the machinery
to damage it and cause a shut-down. Time was
lost for repairs, then rollers began to turn again
and thick, white felted cotton was folded and
pressed into bales and tied with metal
straps. Perhaps I remember so much of this
because I knew that Grandpa was working too
hard. Often he could not leave even long
enough to walk across the road for his meals.
Tiny though I was, I could carry a small pail of
cold buttermilk when Grandmother or Mama took his
plate of food to him. And there was dusty
lint hanging from every weed or tree in the whole
gin yard. Big black-and-white Dan was the dog
member of the family and I think he was a mutt but
mostly of the Newfoundland breed. Grandpa
often said Dan was such a good, brave watchdog
that he saved the wages of a night watchman at the
gin. He was devoted to me and when any man
came to the house, Dan always placed himself
between that man and Sister and me. Once
when Mama had been away for sometime, and came up
the front walk in her best dress, an
elaborate white organdy with loads of frilly
ruffles, Dan met her halfway down the walk and she
did not see him in time. He stood erect on
his hind legs, and was taller than she, then he
gently put his arms around her neck
and kissed her. Unfortunately, he did not
realize that the rain the night before had left
the feathers along his legs wet and muddy.
Ironing that white dress took hours but Mama just
laughed and seemed pleased that Dan was so glad to
see her.
Mama had two brothers only a little older
than she and for this weekend, the whole family
was together.

Harvey Weems |

Dr. James Madison Weems, Jr. |

Annie Lou Weems Lanham |
I don't remember what this celebration was
for, but it was something special. Uncle Mat
made the ice cream. He set the
big freezer on a table on the back porch and
turned the crank. I adored both my uncles,
and no small girl was ever petted more. But
both uncles loved to tease me, Uncle Mat in
particular. That was how I got the shock
of my young life. It was a warm, no!
HOT! summer day in Texas and the ice in the
freezer melted fast. When the salty water
began to overflow from the wooden bucket of the
freezer, Uncle Mat set the freezer in a big dishpan.
After
several minutes of vigorous turning the crank, the
cream was frozen. Then Uncle Mat set it out
of the pan and wrapped it in feed sacks and left
it on the table to ripen. He pushed the pan
full of icy saltwater back a little way under the
table. His job was done and he turned his
attention to me. He was playfully reciting
to me the old rhyme about "The old bumble bee came
out of the barn, and he had his bagpipe under his
arm, and he went z-z-z-z!" He had a sort of
tune to the jingle and when he reached the
z-z-z-z, he tickled my ribs. I backed
away, dodging, and sat down in that
icy pan of water. A violent shock and the
first in my young life, I guess! I
howled! The rest of the family saw only the
finny side.
Later, that same afternoon, some young friends
dropped in for the ice cream and cake. That
was when I gave Uncle Mat his shock in
return. He took his special girl out to the
settee on the front porch so they could eat
their cream together in privacy but I
followed them. Of course, after the icy
wetting I had that morning, I had to have
fresh clothing from the skin out, and as it
happened Mama had made me new underwear of which I
was very proud.
I hunted Uncle Mat up to tell him about that, "I
got new drawers on, Uncle Mat! Have you got
new drawers? Mine have lace on them,
too. Uncle Mat, do your drawers have lace on
them?"
Both Uncle Mat and his young lady were terribly
embarrassed. So was Mama! I was hustled back
inside and given a lecture on the subject of what
not to talk about.
Operating that gin was hard work, long hours,
and a great deal of responsibility for Grandpa but
he made many friends among the farmers and having
been a farmer previously, he knew their problems
and could talk to them. Some of his friends
put his name up and he was popular enough to be
elected County Commissioner. Then he moved
his home to the county seat town.
CHRISTMAS IN
THE WEEMS HOME
His next home was a neat little gray cottage
and I could almost draw a blueprint of that place,
it is so firmly fixed in my memory. The
whole family gathered there for the first
Christmas that I can remember. It was a
traditional Christmas, only we did not have a tree
at home. I was told that Santa Claus would
come down the chimney if I hung up my stocking,
however, since there was no fireplace, only a big
black heating stove with a six or seven inch pipe,
I could not quite take in the idea without a few
questions.

James Madison
Weems Sr. home at Celina
James Madison Weems
Sr. with wife Kittie, Catherine Red
Weems, and
his daughter Annie
Lou Lanham Weems with her two daughters Carrie Lee
Lanham (Autry) and Kittie Lanham (Oakes)
As for the Christmas tree, Uncle Buddy came
to take me to that. Since our family was only
visiting from out of town, Mama explained that I
need not expect Santa Claus to have anything for
me on that tree, but that my presents
would surely appear the next morning in my
stocking. After assuring Mama that I just
wanted to see the gorgeous, big tree with its
bright decorations, and that I would not be
disappointed, she let me go with him.
Imagine my surprise when my name was called the
same as the other children! Santa, himself,
brought me a little packet tied up in bright
ribbon. I was proud as could be, with a
lovely box of four tiny perfumes, all different
"flavors".
That Christmas Eve night I was so excited, and my
small black cotton stocking did not seem nearly
big enough to hold the doll I wanted, so I
borrowed one from Grandmother. Then I
worried for fear Santa would not know it was mine
so I wrote a letter to him telling him about the
exchange in hose. I was not more than five
but I had been reading and writing more than a
year. I carefully pinned the letter to the
long stocking and hung it on a chair beside the
stove just before kissing everybody "goodnight"
and saying my "Now, I lay me."
At Grandpa's home, I do not remember ever having
a tree. There were always a few decorations,
a mistletoe wreath with red ribbon bow on the
front door, and some other bunches hung around the
parlor (never called a "living room then")
and in the dining room. One of Grandmother's
sons or Papa saw that she had flowers, usually a
vase of red and white carnations. But the
only tree we saw was at the church. A tall
cedar with many candles carefully placed and
strings of popcorn and cranberries; sometimes
tinsel strings sparkled among little brown paper
bags of candy for the children, and striped
peppermint candy canes, and a few of the lighter
weight unbreakable toys.
Next morning early, I found a small China doll in
the top of my stocking. She was so
beautifully dressed in soft red wool that I now
know Grandmother must have spent many hours making
that lace trimmed petticoat and tiny ruffled
drawers with baby-sized buttons and
buttonholes. Beside my stocking, there was a
tiny iron cook stove almost an exact replica of
the one in our kitchen, and the miniature pots and
pans to go with it. I was so proud! I
still have that doll.
The memories of that Christmas are still
vivid. It was wonderful, the family
happiness, the laughter, the jokes and gentle
teasing. Before the hearty breakfast, with
every one of us around the long table, Grandpa
conducted family worship. He read the story
of the Baby Jesus from the family Bible, said a
short, earnest prayer, then served our
plates.
Grandpa was a very devout man, a steward in the
church, and he held family prayers every night
just before retiring.
After breakfast, Grandmother and Mama began
preparing the elaborate Christmas dinner, stuffing
and baking the turkey, getting vegetables ready,
and all the things that could not have been
prepared earlier. Coconut white cake, spice
cake, and a big platter full of fancy cookies had
been prepared during the week but several fruit
cakes had been ripening, occasionally sprinkled
with whiskey, for more than two months.
Uncle Mat and Grandpa beat up eggnog and set it to
ripen on the back porch. Each of the three
of us had a sip, and my opinion as to its quality
was gravely considered,
even though they both were perfectly aware that
was my very first taste of the delectable
stuff. It was later served with some of the
fruitcake to any guests who might drop in.
The China doll I received that Christmas was not
my first love for I remember Nora. She was a
rag doll and I do not remember just when she was
acquired, but I must have been very young,
probably about three. Mama made this
doll but it was all hand made and hand-painted
with some of Mama's artist oils. I think she
even made the pattern the doll was cut from for I
have never seen another so well shaped. It
had a nicely rounded head, well-shaped nose, and
seams were well hidden under the beautifully
painted baby face, which looked so much more like
a real baby than the China doll. Nora even
wore some of Sister's outgrown baby clothes.
She was the only doll, of the many later ones I
had, that I ever wanted to take to sleep with me,
I loved her so.
LIVING WITH THE KANE FAMILY
Papa was a country schoolteacher and moved
about from one place to another quite often.
The first school that I remember about was
probably about twenty miles from where Grandpa and
Grandmother lived. It was in a farm community
and our little family could find no house
available for the teacher's family. We were
fortunate that one of the members of the school
board took us in to board in his home.
We became members of the Kane family which was
already rather large consisting of three grown
sons, one of them away at college, two grown
daughters, another almost grown, and the baby of
the family only a year older that I. She and
I were great playmates.
The Kane home was large with a big attic where
Lorena and I could find the most amazing costumes
for dressing up like ladies. There were
several storage trunks of garments that had long
gone out of style, picture hats with
enormous plumes, veils and wraps. That was a
wonderful place to play, especially on rainy
days. We could spend hours there without
interfering with any of the grown-up projects.
Mr. Grayson Kane was a very devout man, a
well-to-do farmer and popular in that section of
the county. It was the custom some time
during the summer for an itinerant preacher to
come into the community with a tent and hold about
10 days camp meeting. Once or twice the
meeting was held in Mr. Kane's big pasture, but
after a few years, the church managed to scrape up
enough cash to buy a small tract of land on which
they expected to build a church.
Until this church was erected, a brush arbor was
put up. Supports of four or five inch logs were
set in the ground and a framework of lighter poles
nailed across their tops. Then brush was
piled on top enough to provide shade and even some
protection from a light shower. At one end
of the arbor, a platform was set up, and borrowed
chairs provided seats for the choir. A crude
shelf was set up at the front of the platform to
hold the preacher's Bible, though after reading a
few verses, it was rarely referred to. Some
one in the community loaned an organ; the
lodge provided flare
torches, and the camp meeting was off to a good
start. If the preacher was well known, sometimes
families came for several miles in their big farm
wagons. Mattresses and quilts were brought,
as well as food for several days. Such
gatherings of relatives and friends might provide
their annual get-together, unless a funeral might
intervene when the clans would always gather.
Ordinarily, the Kane family attended the camp
meetings with reasonable regularity since they
lived only about three miles from the meeting
grounds. But one summer, Mrs. Kane decided
she was going to camp. Mr. Kane put up the
objection that he could not stay at night because
of his live stock. They had to be attended
to night and morning, but in the end, he agreed to
fit up one of his wagons for camping. One of
the older boys could stay with the family and Mr.
Kane and the hired hand Rufus would go to meetings
during the days, always returning to the farm to
do the chores and sleep there.
Rufus was a drifter who had never been exposed
to the hellfire and brimstone some of those
country preachers could dispense. Neither
was he overly gifted with gumption, though he
could and did fulfill his farm duties fairly well
under the close supervision Mr. Kane gave
him. Mr. Kane was a little surprised when
Rufus indicated that he wanted to attend some of
the services but readily gave his permission, with
the proviso that Rufus was to return at night with
Mr. Kane to help with the chores. After seeing the
preacher get himself well warmed up to his sermon,
and seeing several shouting women, and
mourners converted, the combined effect of these
things made considerable impression on Rufus and
he went down to the mourner's bench. But
though many of the believers prayed with
Rufus,
and he returned to the bench for prayers several
times, Rufus was still unconvicted. He was
still struggling trying to think things out one
night when he and Mr. Kane started for home.
The meeting was expected to close the next day so
Mr. Kane had left his gentle farm team of horses
with his family, just in case they wanted to come
home before he returned. On this night, he
was driving a team of young mules to his
wagon. They were not yet thoroughly trained
for their duties, but were excellent plow
animals. No noise followed the plow, but the
wagon made sounds to them, running over some of
the rocks in the road, empty and rattling along.
Rufus, still under the spell of the preacher,
was struggling in his soul, trying to pray
salvation through, and asked Mr. Kane for
help. Mr. Kane quoted scriptural verses in
answer to all the questions and was sincerely
concerned about his hand's welfare. The
mules were trotting along under perfect control,
the summer moon overhead, the peaceful night, and
Rufus praying softly.
About half way between the Kane home and the
arbor, there was a long sloping hill leading down
toward the Kane gate. Just as the wagon
reached the top of this hill, Rufus stood up
shouting.
"I've got it! Hallelujah! Glory be,
I've got religion, Mr. Kane! I'm goin' to
Heaven, now!" The startled mules' first leap threw
Rufus over the back of the wagon seat where he
fell into the bed of the wagon, still
shouting. Mr. Kane braced himself, trying to
control those frightened mules in their headlong
race down the hill, expecting every second for one
of the wheels to strike a rock large enough to
overturn the careening wagon.
Rufus pulled himself up on his knees, yelling
at the top of his voice. Mr. Kane was sawing
on the heavy reins, trying desperately to bring
his team under control.
"Shut up, Rufus!, he ordered. "For pity
sake, quiet down!" But Rufus paid no
heed. "Hallelujah, I'm a-gonna see Glory!"
The mules ran the harder. In
desperation, Mr. Kane gathered both reins into his
left hand, swung himself around on the seat and
clouted Rufus right in the mouth.
"Dammit, you fool! Shut your mouth, or
we'll both be in Heaven, next minute!" Such
an outburst was entirely out of character; Mr.
Kane normally being a quiet, mild-mannered man,
that Rufus was shocked into silence. The
mules were quickly brought under
control, and the two men reached home safely and
in silence. Neither of them ever mentioned
the incident.
One of the neighbors, however, had just turned
his team off the main road into his lane. He
heard and saw the frantic run-away and he repeated
the story to the preacher.
The preacher stared at the man thoughtfully,
then, "I take it, Mr. Brown, you don't drive
mules," he said mildly.
When school was over, we went back to
Grandpa's for a visit. I cried myself sick
when Mama gave my rag doll, Nora, to Lorena as a
parting gift. Lorena and I, both, had
other dolls but Nora was my favorite. Mama
promised me she would make me another just like it
but she never did. Strange how a single childish
incident sets the pattern or furnishes a clue to
other more important sequences. But from
that time on, I knew in the depths of my heart
that my wishes, my desires, and my longings were
of minor importance to Mama. I realized
then, though I was very young, that I could never
count on complete fairness from her. And I
have never understood why my doll should be taken
away from me and given to some one else over my
unwilling protests.
Even after we moved away from that community,
we often went back on visits as long as we lived
in Texas. Lorena and I were flower girls
when her grandparents celebrated their golden
wedding. In those days it was a rare couple
who lived long enough for that fiftieth year
celebration, since then Texas was not far past
pioneering days. It had been a hard life for
many of them.
Little old, Mrs. Callahan looked very sweet in
her embroidered white dress, and their sons and
daughters bought a lovely gold brooch for her gift
and an elaborately engraved gold-headed cane for
Mr. Callahan. I even remember the
identical ruffled white dresses Lorena and I wore,
with wide gold-colored satin sashes. The
reception was held in the Kane's big living room
and banks of goldenrod were everywhere.

UNCLE MAT
While we were with Grandpa and Grandmother
that summer, Uncle Mat hung up his shingle as a
dentist. First, he had studied for more than
a year under an old dentist who wanted a young
partner. When he was sure that he wanted
to continue in this profession, he went
away to school in Baltimore and studied in the
dental college there. Later, he became one
of the best in Texas and with his own practice.
After a couple of years in the East at school, he
came back and was quite the gay young blade, with
his very fashionable tight fitting trousers, derby
hat, and bicycle. He also acquired a
beautiful trotting horse, a buggy, and various
other accessories.
Once, he took me to Denison on his bicycle, a
distance of about six or seven miles. He had
planned to meet some of his young friends
there. Some of the young women had come in
buggies. But for that one night, I was
thrilled at being his best girl. He told me
so. He took me for a boat ride on the lake,
got a water lily for me, and fed me all the
popcorn and pink lemonade I could handle. I
had a wonderful time.
As we were riding home, with me on the
handlebars, much later than my usual bedtime, his
rear tire went flat and that meant we had to walk
for miles. Part of the way was along dark road,
and through deserted streets. When we finally
did arrive at home, the whole family was up
waiting. They were astonished that I had
walked all that distance, without a single whine
or whimper. And though it was very late and
I was only about five, I had not complained of
being too sleepy to walk and had never asked to be
carried.

PAPA'S SECOND SCHOOL
The next school my father taught was
endowed. Part of the funds for it came from
the state, but the building, grounds and house for
the teacher's home were provided by a very wealthy
old doctor as a memorial to his only
daughter. He had selected about five acres
from the middle of a huge pasture for the site.
He kept herds of cattle in that pasture and
when some of them were near our yard fence, Mama
was deathly afraid and she would not go into the
yard herself, nor let me go even though we had a
good fence of three or four strands of barbed
wire. She was especially fearful if some of
those big red bulls began pawing the dust nearby.
The schoolyard was also fenced and there was
plenty of play ground. Since the doctor was quite
an advanced thinker for his day and time, he had
provided space for the children to learn how to
plant a garden, set out a few fruit trees, and
make flower beds and hot beds.
The main building was a large, white frame
structure, with two long rooms separated by a
sliding partition so that they could be thrown
together to provide for a community center.
A narrow stage to provide for school programs ran
along one end, and there was a smaller single room
for primer classes and the first and second
grades. This building was about the size of
the many one-room schools that dotted the rest of
the county.
Our house was just across the road from the
school and it was constructed on the same pattern
of all the better farm homes in that section. It
had a hall straight back from the front porch to
the kitchen, with a large room on each side and a
stair going up from near the single center
door. The upstairs plan was identical.
There were no closets, no built-ins, not even a
back porch. The dug well was about thirty
feet from the kitchen door and that in itself was
considered a great convenience, as the wife on
many of the farmsteads in that area sometimes had
to carry water several hundred feet. Our
well was about thirty feet deep and all the water
used we pulled up with rope and pulley.
Every home had a brass bound cedar bucket set on a
wash shelf near the kitchen door with a big tin
basin and roller towel handy.
We lived at this place several years and
everything I learned about the people in the
community interested me. Some were rugged
individuals.
There was old Doctor Sheperd, who had provided
this school for children from his tenant families,
and many more besides. The greater number of
pupils walked to school, sometimes several
miles. Others rode horseback, and one family
sent their kids in an old buggy.
When I was about six, Dr. Sheperd vaccinated me
for small pox and I remember that he asked Mama to
be sure to save the scab when it fell from my
arm. He provided a small box filled with
sterile cotton for her to put it in and he used
that scab for many of his patients who needed the
vaccination but could not afford to pay for
serum. He said I was such a healthy little
animal that my scab would do for several hundred
inoculations. Nowadays, medical procedure
like that is beyond the imagination of modern
practitioners. I suppose many of the younger
doctors have never come in contact with a
case of smallpox, and they certainly can have
little idea of how terrible that dreadful
pestilence used to be. I have since seen
several cases and I know.
Dr. Sheperd was a fine man and I admired him
greatly but I doubt if he knew much about
medicine. He had a fairly good library and
did considerable reading but I never knew that he
attended any medical seminars or such.
But his team and buggy were familiar over all
the roads round about. He carried a small
black pillbox and from it dispensed calomel and
quinine as needed. And that was about all,
except for a pair of forceps, a needle and gut
strings, and his thermometer. Undoubtedly,
his greatest value to the community was the
comfort and sympathy he gave his patients along
with his pills. They trusted his wisdom, his
knowledge of human nature and went to him
for advice on many family problems other than
health.
After we had been living on Dr. Sheperd's
place for about a year, Mama and Papa received an
invitation to a wedding. Mr. and Mrs. Kane
were giving their daughter a church wedding, and
Mama was asked to take charge of the affair.
Lorena and I were to be flower girls again.
This was to be the first church wedding I ever
attended. Since we were about twenty miles
from the nearest florist, Mama and some of the
neighbors gathered bushels of honeysuckle vines to
decorate the little chapel. I have no idea
how many white tissue paper flowers they
made. Over the altar, they made and hung a
white bell and the church looked lovely.
After all that elaborate preparation, the poor
groom was so flustered that he forgot to pick up
the bride's bouquet at the railroad station.
Mama sacrificed all the cosmos in her flowerbed,
tied them with a satin bow, and that made a
pretty, ferny armful for the bride to carry.

WYOMING
That summer, Papa went to Wyoming to work but
I don't know whether it was harvesting or
ranching, or what. He thought it would be
good for his health for him to change climate and
work in the open for a few months.
That left Mama alone with two very small
daughters and the nearest neighbor about half a
mile away. Uncle Buddy thought she would be
much safer if she had a gun for protection so he
brought her a nice .32 Smith and Wesson pistol.
It was a good one and Mama was so proud of
it. She took it out in the back yard, set up
a mark and began a bit of practice. She was
already an excellent shot with a rifle or a
shotgun but had never tried her hand with a
pistol.
Our nearest neighbor was a rather odd person who
went by the name of "Whispering Jack!" When
he plowed his fields, he did it by the sound of
his voice and if the wind was right neighbors in
the next county knew it.
We could almost set our clock by the time when he
called his daughter Jane to fetch in the milk cows
for the evening milking. He had been a
cowboy before he settled down to raise his family,
and he had been on many of the early
cattle drives. He took great pride in his
ability as a rifle and pistol shot. So when
he heard Mama shooting, he came up to see.
He challenged her and they agreed to a match,
using a small knothole in the end of a barrel for
a mark. Jack was amazed when Mama out-shot
him badly. He liked Mama and told everybody around
how good she was. I had seen her shoot the
head off a fryer when unexpected company might
drop in for dinner but that was with a twenty-two
rifle. This was her first try with her new
pistol.
I begged to try the pistol, too, after Mama and
Mr. Lynch finished their match. I was so
small that I had to hold the pistol in both hands
to aim it and it took all the strength of both
index fingers to pull that trigger. But
even so, I almost hit that knothole they had used
for their mark. Mama was pleased and promised that
when I was older she would teach me to shoot, too,
but she also gave me a little instruction on how
dangerous guns were and told me never to touch her
gun unless she gave me permission. During Papa's
absence, that gun was laid on a chair at the head
of her bed every night in easy reach if she should
ever need it. By day, it was equally
available in the top bureau drawer. Yet, I
knew I must not touch it. And as Sister grew
older she was taught in the same way. There
it
was, in easy reach any time but so far as I know
neither of us ever disobeyed in that
respect. I do not know if such instruction
would be as effective today with all the
'bang-bang' shows on TV, but I've always thought
that the great danger in such weapons is not in
the gun, but in the lack of proper training.
Summer that year was unusually hot and
dry. Many wells failed and ours was so low
we wondered if it would hold out. Mama's
garden parched, and her flowers all dried
up. Sister became listless and hardly
ate. Mama worried for fear she would
get seriously sick. At last, Mama decided
she had had enough of the loneliness and
heat. She would go to visit her
parents. It was a long hard trip for a woman
traveling alone with two small children. It meant
about ten or twelve hours by horse and
buggy. But she made plans to set out.
Jane Lynch agreed to feed and water the chickens,
the cow was put in their pasture with their milk
stock. Mama washed and ironed all our
clothes and packed them in her valise. She
prepared a box of lunch, stowed a quilt and pillow
in the back of the buggy, hitched Sam up to the
buggy, and we were ready to travel as soon as the
searing afternoon heat began to lessen.
During the heat wave, the blazing sun had been so
hot Mama feared it would make us all sick if we
drove in the heat of the day. She was also
afraid of the dark when out alone on the
road. But, she chose darkness as the lesser
of the two evils. She knew just about how
long it would take to travel that distance with
any luck at all. But the last thing she put
into that buggy was her pistol - just in case.
What made her most uneasy was the new Frisco
railway line in process of construction south from
the Indian Territory. Mama had no exact
knowledge of the distance between the road that
she must take and the construction camps
along the railway. She had been hearing some
tall tales about the behavior of some of those
rough men working as laborers in some of the
crews. If she should happen to meet up with
stragglers from those camps, she meant
to protect herself if she had to.
Just before dark, Mama stopped at a farmhouse to
ask for water. She drew a bucket of water
for Sam and filled a jar with water for us in case
we asked for a drink during the night. We
ate our fried chicken, potato salad, buttered
bread and cookies with the fresh cool water.
Before we drove on, Mama spread the quilt and
pillow to make as comfortable a bed for Sister in
the bottom of the buggy as she could. She
knew Sister would soon be sleepy but she hoped I
would stay awake to keep her company. She
told me she needed me to keep her awake.
During the long night, she told me wonderful
stories, and we both sang all the songs we knew.
Fortunately, there were no other travelers on the
road that night after dark. Though it was
not really very dark after the moon came up.
Once, as we were trotting along, Sam suddenly
shied. He jumped nearly across the
road. Some large animal, what it was we
could not tell, bounded out of some bushes along
the fence row. We did not know if it was a
dog or wolf. It made no sound. It leaped
easily over a high fence and disappeared.
Mama had been over this stretch of road
and knew there was no farm house nearby. She
believed it must have been a wolf. Some
coyotes were known to be in that section, but this
beast was much too large and coyotes are not so
bold. Occasionally lobos drifted into that
area and Mama thought we had seen one and
surprised him as much as he surprised us.
She was more startled than frightened for she had
her pistol at her side, and I was confident she
would have shot it if it had turned towards us.
Day was just breaking when we reached Grandpa's
house. After fixing us a bite to eat,
Grandmother put both Mama and me to bed. We
were both worn out. Sister had slept so well
she was fresh and lively.
SUMMER AT
GRANDPA & GRANDMA'S HOUSE
Sister and I found it very pleasant to visit
here. There was lots of room for us to play,
and shady oaks for coolness. Grandpa had a
good rope swing in one of them. Back home,
in the middle of that pasture, there were no shade
trees in sight. In our yard, there was one
small scrubby cedar set near the front porch.
Best of all, there were other children near that
we could play with. And across the street an
old lady had a bright green parrot, which we
enjoyed. Her cage was usually hung on
the wide veranda. Polly amused us when she
whistled up a pack of dogs. She called and
whistled until there might be about a dozen dogs
on the lawn. She knew each boy's special
whistle and could imitate it
perfectly. The dogs ran around bewildered,
each trying to find his master. Then she
would scream "Git out! Go home, you
curs!" And the poor deluded pups would slink
off, knowing they had been fooled again.
We never could understand how Polly could repeat
that performance so often without those dogs
catching on to the trick, but it never failed to
amuse us.
While at Grandpa's we learned to watch for the
tamale man. A Mexican with a small pushcart
came by each afternoon selling "Hot
tamales!" He was regular as ice cream
vendors are now. But Mama and
Grandmother thought the highly spiced tamales were
not good for children and rarely let us buy.
The Mexican had used considerable ingenuity in
making his little pushcart. He set a big lard can
in the box rigged up on two discarded bicycle
wheels. The big lard can was packed all around
with newspapers and partly filled with hot
water. A smaller can filled with the tamales
was set in the hot water and had a tightly fitting
lid placed over that. The tamales came out
steaming when he forked them out on the plate we
brought when we were allowed to buy them.
Though she could not have known, Grandmother's
colored girl told us that those tamales were made
from dog meat and that all Mexicans were
dirty. I knew it wasn't true for Uncle Mat
had taken me for a ride once and we had passed
this Mexican's house. There was no other
Mexican family in the vicinity and while the place
was shabby and run-down, it was clean. Ella
May just did not like Gonzales but if we bought
his tamales, I noticed she did not refuse to eat
some of our purchases.
Ella May did not like the quaint old Chinaman who
passed almost every afternoon, either. He
was strange, she said, and ate rats. He was
always dressed the same, long black shirt and no
other man wore the tail out at that time.
His black cotton pants were short enough that his
white socks showed. The only change in his
appearance was in his headgear. Sometimes,
he wore a tiny black pillbox cap with his long
gray queue dangling down behind, but if he wore
his odd straw hat, he coiled his queue out of
sight. A few small boys sometimes
followed him chanting in a nasal singsong,
"Ching-ching-Chinaman, eats dead rats!" But
he always ignored them, walking along in quiet
dignity. These two were the only foreigners I knew
as a child. That they were different I
understood. But both Grandmother and Mama
always pointed out that a lady worthy of the name
should treat every person with courtesy. Nice
manners were the mark of a lady, and that theme
was drilled into me most thoroughly from
infancy. Courtesy and consideration!
The two most important words of all.
Grandpa Weems served in the Confederate Army
and was captured at the fall of Vicksburg.
As I remember his comment on that, the soldiers he
was with were heavily outnumbered and when they
started to retreat, found a regiment of blacks
behind them so they turned and ran back to
surrender to the whites.
He was imprisoned on an island, Number 10, and
many of the guards were black, and the prisoners
were so starved that some caught and ate
rats. The Yanks stripped most of the state
of food and even before capture he said much
of the time all he had to
eat was ears of corn right from fields as they
marched.
After he was freed, Grandpa went back home, but
Reconstruction times in Mississippi were bad. The
whole section where he had lived was in ruins, no
money, no supplies, no horses or mules to work the
land or even seeds to plant it,
impossible taxes, debts, etc.
Indescribable. On some of the land the freed
slaves stayed and they and both my grandfathers
tried to get along. Since all white men were
disenfranchised, only carpetbaggers and ignorant
blacks were running the government, and much of
the land had been confiscated; it was time to move
to Texas.
I remember one of them said that if war could
have been postponed for as few as ten years, it
never would have happened, both because of the
economic conditions and because of the invention
of the cotton gin.
The other grandfather said
he had to work so hard to make his farm pay even
before the war that he was not sure if he owned
the place and the slaves or if they owned him.
Then they heard of cheap virgin land in
Texas. So they went in 1870. It was
raw virgin land and it meant long hard labor, so
as soon as a log house was livable they sent for
their families. I do not how Grandmother
Lanham went to Texas, but I assume she went by
boat with her two small sons and essential
household goods to Galveston, then by freight
wagons to Sherman.
I know that Grandmother Weems made the trip by
boat down the Mississippi River and across the
gulf where Grandpa met her and his family.
Grandmother Weems' maiden name was Martha
Catherine Red. A cousin of mine, Inez
Bosewell Biggerstaff traced her line to Josiah
McGaw, a soldier in the Revolutionary War who
fought with the Swamp Fox, Francis Marion's men in
the army near Charleston, South Carolina. At
one time, her people were quite well to do and
lived on a large plantation, but both her parents
died of malaria when she was about seven. He
uncle, Dr. Red, raised her along with
his own three daughters. They had a French
governess and she was given the customary
education for gentle-women of that period.
She was taught some French, a little music, polite
social manners and beautiful convent type sewing,
nothing very practical for a pioneer's wife.

Mary Catherine Red
Weems
Grandmother's handwork was exquisite and
she always felt that the ability to "sew a fine
seam" was the mark of true gentility. But
the war had wiped out her family fortune, and it
was a long-standing joke that Grandpa had to teach
her how to cook when they went to Texas. To
her credit, she did adapt to the rigors of
pioneering, but without losing her
polite social ideas of being a LADY. And one
of her common admonitions when I was a child was
"Remember, my dear, you should always behave like
a lady" - or "A little lady would never do that!"
When she spoke of the times she remembered back
in Mississippi, she often mentioned incidents when
she was teaching the young slaves. Uncle Red
had built a small church on his plantation and
Grandmother called the young children
in to learn to read, write and figure each
morning. The house servants were well
trained. In fact, if Mammy Lou had not
been devoted, my premature mother, who weighed in
at three pounds fully dressed in those two long
flannel petticoats, wool undershirt, etc. would
not have lived. She was put to bed in a large
roasting pan on the let-down door of the first big
iron cook stove in the county. And Mammy Lou
faithfully kept the wood fire at the proper
temperature for days - so Mama was incubated
before incubators were invented. Grandmother
had five children but Mama was the last, and the
only girl. Grandmama, Kittie Weems, wrote the
following letter to her sister-in-law after her
brother George Red died.
Sherman, Texas Dec. 6th, 1880
My Dear Mattie
I expect you are looking for a reply to your
last letter so I will try and write a
few lines tonight if my eyes do not fail
me. I have been so
busy and it has been so cold and wet
that I thought I would wait until I got through
with my work before writing. I have
quilted five comforts this winter
and am almost through with my winter
sewing. We are all very well at
present. My health has been better for the
last few months. Well, Mattie I
know that you will be very much surprised when I
tell you that we will move next
Monday to the Poor Farm. Jimmie is
appointed superintendent of the
farm. They pay him four hundred and sixty
($460) dollars and feed the
family. We will have a very nice and
comfortable home to live in. Jimmie
will not have to work. The boys can go to
school all year. This is why I
consented to go. I do not like the idea of
going at all but-as Jimmie thinks it
best, I will try it this year. I will
not have any thing to do in the
affairs there.
Jimmie is trying to get through with his
corn this week - will make over thirteen
hundred (1300) bushels, he has not finished his
cotton yet. We have had a
month of bad weather. This is why Jimmie
is not done gathering his
crop. We had rented this place for another
year. Are you through with your
crop, how many bales of cotton did you
make? I hope you realized a good
price. I am glad that you have nice hogs
to kill. Will you keep the young
man that you now have another year? Tell
Herman Aunty thinks he is a very smart
boy to pick so much cotton. He must be a
good boy and take the place of his
Papa as near as he can, Mattie. You
must-try and cheer up.
Think of your dear little ones, it is hard to
become reconciled to the loss of our
dear ones. When I think of my dear brother
as he was when here and then think
that I can never see or hear him again, oh! my
heart almost breaks. But
Mattie we all have to die soon or late let us
try and meet him beyond the skies where
there is no parting. I wish that I could
spend Christmas with you and the
children. I know it will be a sad time for
you ALL ALONE. Poor children Papa
will not be there to enjoy it with them-but.
You wished to know all our ages. Pa was
born Apr 27th 1817 died July 23rd 1849.
Ma was born May 25th 1821 and died 1855 Nov 26
-- I think. Bud was born June
10th 1844. I was born May 26th 1846.
Sue was born Aug 1st 1849 and died
Nov 6th 1860 -- Bud lived to be four years older
than Pa. Ours has been a
short-lived family. All gone but me, Oh
Mattie think how lonely I must
feel. I do not expect to live much
longer. My eyes have become
exhausted and I will have to close. Kiss
the children all for Aunty and tell them
to be good children. Write soon, I am
always so glad to get a letter from
you.
Your Affectionate Sister
Kittie
Mama stayed with her parents until almost time
for Papa to come back home. She wanted to be there
when he arrived and she decided that since the
weather had moderated and the heat was not so
severe, it would now be best to drive back by
daylight. The trip was uneventful and while
we liked to go, we found we also liked to come
back to our home.
Papa came in looking so healthy and brown.
He enjoyed his outdoor work, but he was glad to be
back, too. It was always a busy time just
before the opening of school. So many
details, so much correspondence, planning and
organizing various projects, he worked harder in
those last two weeks before the start of a term
than any other period except the one opening day
and the closing day.
This year arrangements had been made to have a
music teacher connected with the school.
Miss Grace Kane came to live with us, and one of
the front rooms was set aside for her piano
pupils. Mama did not mind cooking for one
more and she liked Miss Grace so much that she was
glad to have her in our home. Since she was
a very attractive girl, naturally, she had young
men coming to see her. One in particular, I
admired so greatly that I thought
could not grow up fast enough to marry him - and
of course, I didn't but Miss Grace didn't marry
him either. A frustrated romance!
RIDING A HORSE FOR THE FIRST TIME
My first experience with horses came about
this time. Papa liked to ride Sam and he was
a very good saddle horse, though Mama always used
him in the buggy. Papa had a Mexican saddle
with a horn as large and round as a saucer.
I can remember he would swing me up behind the
saddle, put Sister in front on that wide saddle
horn, and away he would gallop across the
prairie. It was wonderful.
Once, Papa left home early in the morning to
attend to some business and he came back about the
middle of the afternoon, tired and hungry.
He filled Sam's watering trough, then asked me if
I wanted to ride around the yard, while
he went in to eat his dinner. Of course I
did, but it was something I had never tried
before. Sam had other ideas about
that. He wanted to be fed too and started
for the barn. I tugged at his reins to turn
him but he paid me no heed. I barely managed
to stop him in time to slide off before he dragged
me off as he went into his stable. But from
then on, I wanted to learn to ride and I loved
horses.
Mother had been an excellent rider and she used
to relate how when I was only a few months old,
she had taken me up in her lap to ride,
sidesaddle, whenever she visited any of her
friends. Grandpa and Papa used to boast that
she could handle any horse they ever had.
She even drove Uncle Mat's fine racer hitched to
his light training cart and this was considered
quite a feat for a woman. Crockett, a
beautiful blood-bay animal, was so high spirited
as to be a bit fractious. Even so, Mama
frequently drove him down town on errands.
Whenever she did, some of Uncle Mat's sporty
friends who knew the horse would
jokingly challenge her to a race, but they always
found some excuse to back out of it if she
accepted the bid. Sometimes, they gave as
their excuse that it would not be a fair race
since Mama was so much lighter than
they, which fact was true. Though their real
reason for not wanting to match a race with her
was that they knew her ability with the reins and
her skill in controlling the animal. Besides
Crockett had a reputation for speed. No
young Texan would enjoy or willingly accept defeat
at the hands of a woman in a trial of this sort.
MY LOVE OF READING
So far, I have had only a little to say about
Papa. At a very early age it was brought
home to me that he was terribly disappointed that
I was a girl instead of the son he had hoped
for. Most of the time, he ignored me
completely. I do remember that on rare
occasions, I have overheard him boast that I
learned to read before I was four years old.
However, that feat was started on my own
initiative. Both Papa and Mama loved
reading and they frequently read aloud by turns to
each other. If they buried themselves in
separate books, I was left to my own
resources. Then I would get my Mother Goose
Rhymes or a primer and
pull my little rocking chair between them, as
close as possible. If any one would listen,
I could repeat any of these books from memory but
if I tried to read them, I sometimes faltered over
a single word. Then I insisted
on being told what that word was. If either
parent ignored my question, "What's this word?" I
simply sat and repeated over and over "B, d, b,
d," until it become so monotonous that one of them
would finally stop reading long enough to tell me
the word I wanted to know. I cannot remember
learning at all. According to school
standards, my self-education was not exactly
balanced. I read well and understood what I
read. I knew many words and their meanings,
but I was not a good speller. I had little
interest in numbers and had never been taught any
arithmetic, but I could count and make
change.
I loved reading and by the time I was seven, when
other Texas children were just starting to school
in the primer, I was reading and enjoying the old
"Youth's Companion." I read every text in
reading that Papa had in his library,
and since he was frequently given complimentary
copies of sets for all the grade in school, that
was quite a lot of reading for a child who had not
gone to school at all. I could and read some
newspapers but since that was before comics
reached their present popularity, I found little
to interest me.
Papa did not want me to be too far advanced in
school and held me back by putting me in the
second grade at the start of my schooling.
And he never would allow me to be promoted or
advanced except at the end of the year. I
never understood why he deliberately held me
back. I really do not believe it is best for
children to be pushed too fast, either, but it is
hardly fair to force them to work below their
capacity.
PAPA AS SUPERINTENDENT OF SCHOOLS
The first year I started to school was the
year Papa got a larger school and we
moved to the county seat where he was
superintendent of three schools. This town
was about twenty or more miles from where we had
previously lived and in another county. Papa
rented a house just across the street from the
high school where he would have his classes, which
made it very convenient for him. There was a
smaller grade school in one corner of the big
campus ant that is where I started to
school. Only the three first grades were in
that building.
Our house was not large but it was very
comfortable and it was set in a fenced yard
heavily sodded with Bermuda grass. Papa had
a colored man who came to keep it nicely cut and
it made a wonderful place for romping games, with
some of the neighbors' children, and there were
usually several of them around.
The house had four huge rooms, but the room we
used most was the cozy dining room, for we loved
the big, old stone fireplace, and the round dining
table served for games as well as for meals.
By that time, Sister and I could play Flinch, Old
Maid and other similar games, but actual playing
cards were not permitted. Sometimes Mama and
Papa had their friends, most often other teachers,
in for Flinch.
That fireplace was where we gathered on cold
winter evenings. Sometimes, we shook a wire
popper over glowing coals and listened for the
snappy pops of the corn. Sometimes, we
roasted apples and sweet potatoes in the hot ashes,
and once in a while, when it was very cold, Mama
hung an iron pot of beans or stew over the fire to
simmer for our supper. On rare occasions,
she even made corn pones in a heavy iron
spider. Oh, we loved that fireplace!
We lived in this place two years, and it was
there that I had my first regular schooling and I
admit I was much more interested in the other
children than in my books, which were far too easy
to demand my undivided attention. Many
times, I begged to carry my lunch to school
because most of the other children did and I
wanted to be like the other small girls I
knew. I was sure having my lunch on the
school grounds would be a picnic and I wanted the
whole noon hour for play. But Mama insisted
that I come home for my lunch and I can remember
only once that she relented.
Our playground had none of the modern
equipment that small folks find as a matter of
course on their playgrounds now. Never
having seen slides,
acrobatic bars, and such, we did not miss them
but improvised our own amusements by laying heavy
boards across fire-wood logs hauled into the yard
for fuel. Those were our
teeter-totters. And when those same logs had
been sawed into stove lengths, we dragged and
piled them in place to build walls for our
play-houses. Maybe we appreciated more what
we had to make ourselves than little ones who are
given everything ready-made. I don't know
but I think we got double the fun.
When I was promoted to the third grade, I had my
first love affair. Not an unmixed
blessing! The little boy who sat behind me,
dipped my pigtails into his ink well and whenever
he wanted my attention, he yanked them, too.
But he also gave me presents. He shared his
gingerbread with me at recess sometimes; he gave
me some of his favorite marbles to play jacks
with; and he brought me my first gift of
flowers. That was a huge arm full of lilac
blossoms, and some way that happens to be my
favorite perfume, to this day.
Another gift that I received while we lived here
was the first and only gift my father ever gave me
personally. It was a small child's book of
Eskimo stories. I have never understood why
he happened to bring it back to me after one of
his trips, nor why he never gave me any other
present. I have always believed he rather ignored
my presence because he never overcame his
disappointment that I was not the son he
wanted. Sister was his favorite and he
frequently gave her little things. Possibly,
this was because she looked so much like him,
partly, I think, because she was named
for his mother, and partly, also, because she was
gayer than I and she did not draw back into a
shell as I did whenever I sensed his snubs.
Shortly before we moved from this town, the
whole family received a shock that I shall never
forget. Sometime very late at night we were
awakened by pounding steps on our front
walk. A man's voice was calling Papa
urgently. He said he had a wired message
from Papa's father asking Papa to come
immediately, that Grandpapa had shot Papa's
brother. We were horrified and
could not believe what we heard.
While Papa dressed, Mama phoned to find out when
the next train left. Then Papa thought to
phone the telegraph office and have the message
read to him. It was not true, of course, but
what had happened was bad enough. The
message actually said that Grandpapa had killed a
man, and that Papa was to let Uncle Wiley know,
and both sons were asked to come at once.
GRANDPA'S
GROCERY STORE
Grandpapa owned and operated a small
grocery store with a large wagon yard in
connection at the edge of town. Country
people coming in to trade frequently drove long
distances, too far for their wagons to make the
round trip in one day. They would
park their rigs in Grandpapa's enclosure, stable
their teams in his sheds, and buy supplies for
several months ahead. A few men brought their
wives and when they did a bed usually was made
up in the back of their wagons for the
family to sleep over night unless they had
relatives to visit. Other men came alone and
these had their choice of sleeping in their wagons
or taking a bunk for 25 cents in the
bunkhouse.
If purchases in Grandpapa's store amounted to a
considerable outlay, there was no charge for these
facilities.
Usually everything about the yard was quite
orderly, but occasionally some rough men would
come in on a Saturday night and cause a
disturbance. On this particular Saturday
night, Grandpapa was alone in the place when a
big, drunken bully came in and began cursing
Grandpapa for some fancied wrong. The abuse
started at the front end of the long store.
Grandpapa tried to pacify the man but as he talked
quietly to him, he was backing away from
him. A few plain chairs were set out down
the center aisle for the convenience of customers,
and this man picked up one and was menacing
Grandpapa with it. He carried the chair
raised high over his head, threatening
to strike Grandpapa down. Grandpapa
continued to walk slowly backward, still trying to
reason with the man. He even appealed to the
two other men who had entered the store behind
this dangerous ruffian. They refused
to have any part of it, knowing how quarrelsome
drinking made this man. Grandpapa had
backed almost the full length of the store until
he was in reach of a desk where he kept his books
and accounts, with the man still following
and becoming more abusive. When he reached
the desk, Grandpapa pulled open a drawer where he
kept his pistol. By this time the man was so
close, he could reach Grandpapa with a heavy blow
from the chair. "Put that chair down!"
Grandpapa ordered crisply, as he brought the
pistol into plain view at his side. The
man swore foully as he lunged forward to bring the
chair down with all his strength. Grandpapa
sidestepped and shot from the hip.
Grandpapa was a quiet, mild-mannered,
little man with wavy gray hair and a neatly
trimmed beard and he looked very much as many
another Confederate veteran of those times
did. He must have been in his middle sixties
at the time. It still seemed strange to any one
who knew him that even a drunken man could be so
foolish, to try to intimidate one of General Lee's
officers, especially one who had served four
years with his staff and was still with Lee at
Appomattox.
There was no formal trial after this
killing. Grandpapa, with his two sons,
reported to the sheriff the next morning, and
answered a few questions. The man who was
killed was notoriously quarrelsome and dangerous
especially when drinking and even his companions
under oath stated that Grandpapa had
ample justification. Though the wild
Saturday nights in some Texas towns were less
frequent than they had been previously and the
custom of shooting a town up never had the
prevalence that movies and TV programs
would have you believe, there were plenty of times
when such violent incidents did occur. All
the wildness was not yet gone.
PROSPER, COLLIN CO., TEXAS
Shortly after that, Papa moved us to Prosper,
another Texas town. I was then in the fourth
grade and far more advanced than some of the
adolescent boys in my classes, several of whom
were grown in size. A few of them were so
unruly, the school board thought it wise to employ
a man teacher. The grade school teacher was
a character I associated in my mind with Ichabod
Crane and there certainly were strong physical
similarities. Mr. Dean was almost
bald, tall and angular and he was fired with a
great determination to drill mental arithmetic
into our heads. An excellent idea, perhaps,
but then, some heads are virtually impenetrable,
meaning some of those larger boys.
They were slow in books but not necessarily dumb
for many of them were already qualified to take a
man's place at round-up time or harvesting.
Math was not my strongest subject, but I could
figure much more rapidly than these over-grown
boys. In return for a whispered answer, I
was kept well supplied with apples, candy and
chewing gum, sometimes even Sen-Sen. Gum
and Sen-Sen were contraband but my Geography was
large enough to provide me with an adequate
screen. And if the strong scent of the
Sen-Sen gave me away, I could always say in all
innocence that I had been given some at recess.
Come Spring, and these older boys and girls began
to moon around and to make lovesick calf eyes at
one another. It was so obvious that
love-love-love had struck his older pupils that
even Mr. Dean recognized the symptoms and
decided his best course of action would be to
shuffle the seats. These young Romeos were
much too shy to stand around corners and waylay
the girls of their fancies so they resorted to
note writing, an activity that was strictly
against Mr. Dean's rules of conduct. Mr.
Dean's schoolroom was long and the double desks
were arranged facing the front with a long aisle
between them, and since they were expected to need
more help with their lessons, the smaller children
sat in smaller desks closer to the front where
teacher's desk was placed. At the back of
the room the desks were large enough to
accommodate grown-ups and that is where these
older pupils were seated with the girls on one
side ant the boys on the other. The aisle
was too wide between the two rows of desks to make
it safe to pass notes between them, for Mr. Dean's
desk was placed exactly in the middle where he
would have the best opportunity to see and
intercept anything passed between.
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